On social media, a young Nigerian man is looking for advice about his love life. In his post, the anonymous man asked for advice on how to proceed with his plans to wed the woman he met on Twitter only days earlier.
The befuddled man, who calls the 29-year-old woman he calls Dara, his future wife, asked if it’s okay to marry someone with whom he had an extramarital affair on their first date. He claimed that his close friends had been criticizing his feelings for her.
A heated Twitter conversation led him to meet her, he explained. That led to them verbally abusing each other because they were on opposite sides of the conversation.
He claims that she later apologized for her behavior and the two became fast friends as a result of her apology. After chatting for a month online, he decided to pay her a visit in Port-Harcourt, coming all the way from Lagos state.
It was claimed by him that she had paid for his plane ticket and even booked him a hotel room for the visit. The unidentified man confessed to having slept with her the day he arrived and said he avoided her after returning to Lagos because of their relationship.
After a few weeks of avoiding her, the young man realized he was in love with her and they started dating. He was hailed for how he handled the situation.
He’s worried that his friends won’t respect her because she slept with him on their first date because they’re aware of the situation.
In the following paragraphs, you can read his story:
“I met a young lady on Twitter about seven months ago. An issue was trending on twitter back then and we had opposing opinions, we kept attacking each other to the point that she insulted me and called me a novice.
I finally entered her DM with the aim of advising her…but she was waiting with an apology which I accepted and we became pals.
After thirty days of chatting non stop we decided to meet! She lives in Port Harcourt while I’m based in Lagos, she arranged my flight, booked my hotel, without asking for money. She told me to give her when we see. I was touched.
So I met Dara, 29, she is not drop dead gorgeous, not beautiful by the standard of many but the most unusually beautiful girl I have seen. Chatty, funny and charming.
She took me to the hotel and long story short, we had sex. She didn’t spend the night with me but returned the next day to see me.
I returned to Lagos with nothing in my heart but the accomplishment of ‘catching’ another girl. I told my friends everything about her, and they laughed at how easily I laid her.
I stopped chatting with her, avoided her calls for two weeks until I realized I was hooked, not infatuation, not the sex, I was in love. I talked to my friends and they thought I was a fool. They called her ‘cheap’ ‘slut’ and all that, they said she’d sleep with everyone like that.
The thing is I don’t think Dara is like that, I think I seduced her and gave her no room to really resist. I called her and apologized for being MIA. We’ve been good since then, but my greatest regret is talking to my friends about her.
They don’t treat her well, they are convinced she is bad. “No one marries the girl they slept with on the first date” they keep telling me.
I love her, I want to marry her, she has given me no cause to worry… I want to believe my friends are wrong on this! Is there a guy here who married a lady he slept with on the first date? Am I safe? I haven’t proposed but I know I want to marry her.”