A lovely, new single mother recognized on Instagram as kylie_joy_terundu has shared subtleties of how her ideal marriage crumbled in the wake of understanding that herself and her accomplice are incongruent.
In an extensive post shared on Instagram, Kylie expressed that she wedded her ex only three months in the wake of knowing him and imagined that they will be as one till seniority. In any case, in the wake of having children together, she understood that the are not intended to be and she will preferably have a serene life over a hopeless marriage.
She expressed that she has no disgrace being a single parent and hold no feelings of resentment against her ex. She included that she trusts they can be great co-guardians together and she would prefer to have them be co-guardians than a hopeless couple battling within the sight of the children.
Read her full text below :
“Isn’t it crazy yet wonderful how unscripted life can be?
I mean look at me, if anyone had told me that I would one day be a single mother, I wouldn’t have believed them.
I always thought that I would grow old with the one man that I marry; it’s what I wanted, it’s what I grew up witnessing.
My parents have been together for 31 years. Though imperfect, I watched my father treat my mother with so much love and respect.
They liked eachother’s company and I never witnessed dad being cruel to mum.
He was always supporting her even when we all knew that she has messed up.
It was so beautiful to watch (it still is) and I wanted the same for myself.
But, when I got married to the man I met only three Months after “knowing” him (long distance), this dream of mine was not to hold.
I tried to make it work, we both did but in the end, I was so miserable (we both were). We were incompatible to say the least and when two persons who have completely different views about life, beliefs and dreams come to live together, the result is chaos.
I wasn’t going to cross over; that would have meant losing myself and everything that I believed in. He wasn’t going to cross either –
I was then faced with two options:
1. To accept that situation and spend the rest of life wondering what might have been if I had married the man who shared my dreams, ideas, hopes and beliefs
The man who spoke tenderly to me, who saw my soul for what it is, who wanted to take long walks together, play board games, enjoy reading my works and think that I am the most incredible being ever whom he cannot imagine a life without
2. Leave and avail myself for the life that I desire
I chose the latter because forever I decided, is too long a time to stay unhappy.
It’s being great out here.
I’m at peace.
My chest doesn’t hurt anymore and I do not dread each passing day.
I’m surrounded with the love and support of family and a few good friends.
I’m able to further my life and pursue all the things I’ve always desired to do.
Being a single mother has been awesome too, I carry my status with pride, because it really is nothing to feel ashamed about, if anything, I am proud of myself for having the courage to do all that I have done.
You should see me screening toasters ?, that’s because I am not willing to settle for just any man.
I know what I want and it’s what I would have and give myself to.
As for our girls, they would continue to know that daddy loves them.
What happened between us is between us, the kids should not have to suffer for it nor witness it at all, because when parents fight, the children bleed and I would not do that to our girls.
Daddy loves them and they should have a great relationship.
I am very hopeful about the future.
I hope that he finds his happy (if it hasn’t happened yet) and I hope that we can be reasonable co-parents (because we would marry other people) who can sit down together and even take trips for the sake of our beautiful girls.
It’s a great life.
I made the best desicion I could have made.
Meawhile, below is a comment from an Instagram user who already analysed the problem of the poster’s marriage from the little narration he read, and came up with a diagnosis.